4 life-changing polyamory lessons that would help monogamous people, too

I try not to be a polyamory evangelist, at least not anymore. At this point in human history, I figure anyone with an inkling of curiosity toward polyamory will have at least heard of it, so they can research it more deeply if they feel drawn to do so. You can’t “convince” someone to be poly just as you can’t “convince” someone to be gay, but you can model a healthy, happy life within this identity that might inspire others to seek the same if they desire it.

With that in mind, today I want to offer up some life lessons from the world of polyamory – not in the hopes of convincing you to “switch teams” if you’re currently monogs, but rather, with the intention of improving your relationship(s) regardless of how you prefer to structure ‘em. Here goes…

One person should not be your everything.

The farther away monogamy gets in my rearview mirror, the more clearly I can see that its philosophical foundations are absurd. It has never made sense for two people to have to fulfill all of each other’s needs. You know that old proverb about how it “takes a village” to raise a child? Well, children aren’t the only people who benefit from having wide-ranging social supports in their lives!