When my current roommate was contemplating moving in over a year ago, we had a discussion about our various living-quarters quirks, anything that might make us annoying to live with, so we could decide together whether we’d be a good fit.
“I work from home, so I’m here most of the time,” I admitted, knowing this had been a sticking point for some potential roommates in the past. “I also have a long-distance partner; he comes and stays here about one weekend a month, and I have giggly phone calls with him at night a lot. I think that’s about it.”
My future roommate nodded and told me, “I’m a loud sex-haver.” She didn’t seem ashamed, nor did I think she should have to. Working in sex media, I am well used to the sex shame most people harbor, and I don’t think it serves us.
I shrugged. “As long as you’re respectful in the times you choose to have sex, that should be fine for me.”