Content note: discussions of – but not much detail about – trauma, emotional abuse, daddy dom/little girl roleplay, spanking, kink-shaming.
People make a lot of assumptions about you when you’re into DD/lg (daddy dom/little girl roleplay). One of the commonest and darkest of these is that the kink must have been caused by the presence of underlying “daddy issues.”
The phrase “daddy issues” is, itself, a red flag. It is a phrase which literally communicates that the person using it believes a victim of father-related trauma is both somehow responsible for that trauma and profoundly and permanently affected by it. It reduces a person, almost always a woman, to a sad little plant who grew from the seedling of how her father mistreated her – as if that is the totality of her being, as if she was not also enriched by the soil she grew in, the water she drank, the sun she photosynthesized.