Content note: This essay contains discussions of ruined orgasms, CBT (cock and ball torture), chastity, and D/s. Also, if you’re wondering about why I’m still using Substack when Substack was outed as being pretty shitty recently, there’s a note at the end explaining the situation.
My partner and I have been watching a lot of Velvet Veronica videos lately. If you haven’t heard of her, she’s a Canadian porn performer/producer who specializes in soft femdom, mostly manifesting as controlling her “pet” by controlling his dick. Handjobs, edging, chastity, orgasm denial… She’s all about taking ownership of his cock as a way of tormenting him. And he loves it.
One of her favorite things to do is ruin her partner’s orgasms – and, to be fair, he also seems to enjoy this quite a bit. If you don’t know, to ruin someone’s orgasm is to take away stimulation at a crucial moment, when the orgasm itself has already been triggered and can’t be stopped. This results in a phenomenon that looks like a normal orgasm from the outside, but is experienced by its recipient as being weak, unsatisfying, or practically nonexistent.