There are countless reasons I’m grateful to be queer: the great parties, the genderfucky fashion, the political solidarity… but one major benefit of queerness that’s on my mind this week is how queer people tend to be way more chill about sex toys, on average, than straight people.

To be fair, at this point I wouldn’t sleep with anyone who was weird about sex toys, regardless of their sexual orientation. But over the years, I have deeply appreciated how normalized it is, in queer spaces/hookups/relationships, to ask someone to pound me with a dildo, either by hand or in a strap-on. Whether or not my partner happens to have a flesh-and-blood cock attached to them as well, I often prefer to get off on a dildo – and so I always appreciate when someone is not only cool with that, but super horny about it.