I’ve wanted to be somebody’s girlfriend before… but have I ever wanted to roleplay as somebody’s girlfriend? What would be the point of such a thing – and, perhaps even more pressingly, what would be the difference?
I pondered this when I saw a recent post on the /r/RandomActsOfMuffDive subreddit – a forum for finding no-strings-attached cunnilingus partners – where a man had specified that he was seeking a woman to whom he could offer “BFE”: the boyfriend experience.
BFE, and its counterpart GFE (the girlfriend experience), are terms commonly used to describe particular types of sex work sessions. Wikipedia describes these sessions as involving “reciprocal sexual pleasure and some degree of emotional intimacy.” The provider expends emotional labor to help the client feel that they are engaged in mutually desired, mutually enjoyable sex between two people of equal standing.
One wonders, then, what exactly an offer of BFE would entail in a non-monetary transaction. What would the “provider” – in this case, the thirsty man shouting into the Reddit void in search of munchable cunt – be getting out of such an interaction, if not money?