Oct. 24, 2025, 1:06 p.m.

What it feels like to be penetrated

Sub Missives

I have a go-to response when asked, by someone who presumably doesn’t have a vagina, “What does it feel like to get fucked?”

Usually I say, “You have a hole of your own, you know. You could go try it out with your fingers right now, if you’ve got some lube on hand!”

But the truth is, that’s a bit flippant – not only because some people are just curious and don’t actually want to be penetrated (which of course is their prerogative), but also because – for me and for many others – vaginal penetration feels pretty dramatically different from anal penetration. Some elements are similar, both psychologically and physically, but some (at least for me) are distinctly divergent.

So incase you’re curious, today I thought I’d try to distill what it feels like to be vaginally penetrated…

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