I learned something about myself by using a sex toy yesterday. It certainly wasn’t the first time that has happened, but this particular epiphany is one I hadn’t had before.
It was a Satisfyer toy, one of those ones that various different companies call “air pulse stimulators” or “oral sex simulators” or whatever the hell the current term is. Basically, they use quick pulses of air to create the sense of being touched, without much actual touching going on. The overall sensation is (to me, at least) ethereal and ghostly, which doesn’t sound like the kind of thing that would get a person off, but hey. Not everything is as it seems.
I was telling a friend about the odd and thunderous orgasm I’d had with my new Satisfyer earlier in the day, and he said he’d been enjoying this type of toy lately too – moreso since he’s been receiving oral sex more regularly as of late. I replied that I’ve noticed a similar phenomenon in the past; it seems that the more my body grows accustomed to gentle, delicate sensations like oral sex, the more it can enjoy (or indeed, even perceive) such sensations. It’s an attunement, a recalibration. Traditional vibrators don’t cause permanent numbness, but there is a temporary desensitization effect many people experience from frequent vibrator usage, and oh boy have I been there.
My epiphany was this: my heart works like this, too.