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The room where we first kissed

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August 20, 2020
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A French maid, a sugar daddy, & a horny robot

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August 13, 2020
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Dream boys (and girls and enbies)

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August 6, 2020
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The iPad mini might be the ideal porn consumption device

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July 30, 2020
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Long-distance relationships and the intangibility of the body

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July 23, 2020
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Ice cube as sex toy

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July 16, 2020
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You don't have to do the thing to be the thing

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July 9, 2020
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Slapping their cock until they come

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July 2, 2020
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On my fetish for being known

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June 25, 2020
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5 places I wish I could be (& what I'd wear)

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June 18, 2020
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Trouble, trauma, & crying on a park bench

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June 11, 2020
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10 books by writers of color that you should read

I probably don’t have to tell you that it has been a wild week in the news. Police violence against Black people would be horrible even if it was a one-off incident, and it’s not: it’s a centuries-long pattern, under-acknowledged and under-addressed (by white folks, anyway). Here’s a webpage where you can learn more about this injustice and how you can help.

One way to combat racism in yourself – not only for your own edification but also so that you can more effectively combat it in others – is to broaden the perspectives you absorb through the media you consume. To that end, here are 10 books by writers of color that I think you’d like.

Content note: discussions of racism, abuse, trauma, transphobia, and race play.

Mollena Williams – The Toybag Guide to Playing with Taboo

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June 4, 2020
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Autofellatio (a discarded chapter from my forthcoming book)

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May 28, 2020
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5 kinks I wish I had

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May 21, 2020
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The erotics of barbershop

Has anyone else found themselves adopting strange obsessions during the coronavirus lockdown? Are you fixating on pantry pasta recipes? Going down Greek mythology rabbit holes? Scouring the internet for discontinued Betsey Johnson prom dresses?

One of my oddest fascinations as of late is with barbershop quartets. I told my partner I wanted to write about this and they jokingly suggested I title the piece “The Erotics of Barbershop,” even though it isn’t an erotic thing, not really. Or is it?

A week or so ago, I woke up with a seemingly random song lodged in my head, as I often do (does this happen to you too?). It was, of all things, “Bananaphone,” the classic goofy kids’ tune penned by legendary Canadian children’s performer Raffi. To satisfy the mental itch brought forth by this fruity earworm, I typed the song’s name into YouTube… and that’s when I discovered the Newfangled Four.

This quartet of lads, I realized as I watched their adorable take on Bananaphone, has all the appeal of a boy band like One Direction – except the group most likely to become enthralled by them isn’t teenage girls, but people like me: music nerds who always swooned over class clowns instead of hot jocks. These boys’ videos have racked up literally millions of views, and I have to wonder: how many of their viewers are reacting to these clips the way I am – as if my blazingly talented high school crush just sauntered out of choir practice, winked at me, and invited me over for a two-person Sondheim listening party after school?

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May 14, 2020
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Am I allowed to be happy right now?

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May 7, 2020
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Making decisions is hard

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April 30, 2020
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Gender presentation & Animal Crossing

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April 23, 2020
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Stop saving your nice underwear

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April 16, 2020
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What a global crisis taught me about the dudes in my DMs

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April 9, 2020
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