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Dominance, romance, ghosts, & boundaries

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January 10, 2026
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In defense of the humble handjob

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January 3, 2026
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9 songs that got me through 2025

Happy holidays to those celebrating! As snow flurries sweep past my window on this bleakly beautiful Boxing Day, I thought I’d tell you about my favorite songs of the year, most of which are sexy &/or romantic in nature. Feel free to hit ‘play’ on each song so you can listen as you read!

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December 26, 2025
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What “rules” do you follow when it comes to sex and dating?

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December 11, 2025
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I am a horny monster when I'm ovulating

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December 4, 2025
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Oh yeah, I forgot – kissing is about pleasure

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November 27, 2025
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‘Polyamorous’ does not necessarily mean ‘casual’

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November 21, 2025
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A love letter to sadists

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November 14, 2025
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Can you learn how to fuck someone well… at a distance?

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November 5, 2025
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One of the ballsiest emails I’ve ever received

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October 30, 2025
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What it feels like to be penetrated

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October 24, 2025
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Hickeys, bruises, & polyamory

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October 17, 2025
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Putting on the Kate Sloan costume

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October 9, 2025
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Your partner’s phone is private (& that’s a good thing)

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October 2, 2025
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Top 5 answers when someone says “Oh, I could NEVER be polyamorous!”

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September 25, 2025
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Jealousy vs. envy in polyamory: a crucial distinction

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September 21, 2025
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Love addiction, Tinder compulsion, & sitting with the feelings

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September 13, 2025
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In defense of scheduled sex

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September 7, 2025
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When the pussy-eating doesn't quite go as intended

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August 31, 2025
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Can a people-pleaser ever feel entitled to pleasure?

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August 22, 2025
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